LB asked: I’m 23, and I’ve been completely on my own since I was 19. My mother helped me purchase a town-home when I was 19 (because God forbid I rent she thought). It’s 700 sq-ft 1bd/1bath, I have been here (feeling stuck here) for 4+ years now. I desperately want to move. For years now I have asked my family for help to move because 1) I am very unhappy living alone, it’s depressing, quiet, and it’s a very small place with original 70’s interior (I do not have money to upgrade anything) 2) It’s very expensive having everything in my name and paying everything in full myself, I have no choice but to work full-time at dead end jobs to support my living expenses
3) I have never really felt safe here, some of my neighbors are creeps, and it’s a lower level, and I’m a single female
4) I feel like I never had the real college experience, I don’t live close to my local university at all
I want OUT. I’ve had it. I can’t sell it now because the market is so horrible, and if I do, my 4+ years of holding onto it (had hopes of some profit) will be forfeited. I’m miserable in this place. I’ve contacted a few property managers and as soon as I choose one, they’re going to get the ball rolling in possibly renting it out. Everything costs something though. There’s fee’s for everything! I feel like I’m just digging myself deeper and deeper into a hole of debt. AND I’m almost certain the majority of the town-home’s appliances will have to be replaced because they do not work properly. (per property management company stated) And I don’t have the money for that, or much of anything.
My family does not care! My mother hasn’t even worked in the past 3 years now. She finds men to take care of her instead. When I try to talk to her about my situation….of my expenses, and going back to college, and what not, she tells me to move in with my ON again OFF again boyfriend and let him pay my bills for me.
Now I love my b/f /ex b/f BUT he will NOT let me move in with him. (he doesn’t care about me/hell he uses me most of the time it seems, and he knows of my financial burdens) I told my mother this…hoping she would give me better advice/solution. And she said well, go online and advertise for a guy to take care of you financially instead then.
I’m shocked. Is that what I have to resort to? I think that’s somewhat of a dangerous thing to do, not to mention kind of degrading?
What am I supposed to do? Take out more and more loans or max out my credit cards???……..all so I can pay for my $10k tuition loan I pay for monthly that I have, my 12k auto loan I already have pay monthly, $1500 in appliances I need, $500 in start-up fee’s for property manager.
And that doesn’t include another $1k in credit cards that I pay monthly, OR anymore college tuition…..that if I want to go next semester I will have to cough up another grand to attend (assuming fin. aid goes through, if not it will be more then a grand) my local community college.
What should I do? :(
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