Justin asked:


Ok now my life has been through hell the last few years and I just need your help please. I am 28 and have had 1 girlfriend in the past, we dated for 5 years, and that was almost 7 years ago. In the mean time I literally have an impossible time finding anyone to give me a chance. Here is a rough idea of my situation.

In a nutshell… 3 years ago I had to come up with 25000 dollars in medical bills. I didn’t make enough to really cover them so I took out another loan to help pay for the difference. The only reason I took out another loan was because my company at the time kept promising me big raises. My boss was fired a little later on, but then it sucked for me because by then I was in huge debt. I have no college degree and self studied to get myself into the position I was in. It also didnt help that I helped my parents out because I lived with them almost my whole life and gave them 1000 a month in rent. My 3 older siblings got into huge trouble and my parents took out every penny they had to pay for their expenses, and promised to help me financially. Well turns out my parents cannot help me out because they dug themselves deeper than I was. Well zip forward 4 years and I am in huge debt and will take me about 3 years to get myself back on track, but I am confident my plan will dig me out.

Now I moved out a year ago and lived on my own, but recently moved back in with my parents because living on my own really sucked. I never had anyone over and never went on any dates. So I moved back home and am paying rent, although not nearly as much as before. My situation really sucks, and the last 5-6 dates I have been on, it never got past the first date because they end up hearing my situation, or at least part of it, and run. I really want to find a girlfriend, even though it just seems like the worst time. I have been waiting for 7 years, and it will be years before it gets any better and I do not want to waste any time.

Any tips for me? I have tried online dating sites extensively over the year and had no luck. Even tried meeting people out in public, and that is even worse. I do not drink alcohol nor do I really like being around it so I rarely go to bars. Everyone that really knows me, understands my situation and believe it should not stop anyone from dating me, however I beg to differ. Maybe it is all in my head? I don’t know. When I meet a girl, I just want to tell her everything because I hate trying to hide things. But that is hard because when I mention, for instance, I live at home with my parents, I almost kinda have to explain everything because unless you know the whole picture, it just doesn’t sound right.

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